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In handling sexual desire that arises in the course of psychotherapy, Freud (1915/1957) notes that one must neither gratify nor suppress desire, suggesting that 'the course the analyst must pursue . . . is one for which there is no model in real life' (p. 164). The pursuit is perhaps like the petals in poem, 'and as the petals of flowers in falling, waver and seem not drawn to earth' (p. 22), hovering, seemingly resisting something as powerful as gravity, as sexuality. In sustaining an intimate, honest and safe relationship between psychotherapist and client, delicate, courageous art is entailed. The challenge posed by sexual desire in psychotherapy is, firstly, an epistemic one: is it me or is it them; or, more likely is it in-meout-there? One has to entertain the feelings long enough to get the message, to locate the source(s). So, forms of avoidance promoted by fearful ignorance, shame or guilt are unhelpful. Fearful ignorance, like feeling that attraction is synonymous with a boundary violation or that it should not be happening if one is a good therapist, can produce shame and attempts 'not to know' that desire is present. The perils of cognitive and affective avoidance are co

Author

Doris McIlwain

Publisher

Wiley-Blackwell

Published

2014

Language

EN

ISBN

9781118674338

Subjects

Psychology, Medical, Science